Tips

Tips for using Vindervinder.nl. Meeting new people is fun and sometimes exciting. You should always be careful when connecting with someone unfamiliar to you. Use your wits and make sure your safety comes first. You cannot always predict other people’s actions. There are points you can pay attention to, so you stay alert and protect yourself against unwanted events.

Online safety

Never send money or share financial information.

Never send money, especially via bank transfer, even if the person claims to be in an emergency. Wiring money is like sending cash – it’s nearly impossible to reverse the transaction or track where the money went. Never share information that can be used to access financial accounts. If another user asks for money, they must report this to us immediately.

For tips on avoiding romance scams, check out some advice from the US Federal Trade Commission on the FTC website.
Protect personal information.

Never share personal information, such as social security number, home or work address, or details about your daily routine (for example, that you go to a certain gym every Monday) with people you don’t know. If you are older, limit the information you share about your children in your profile and early communications. Avoid sharing information such as children’s names, where they go to school, or their age or gender.

Stay on the platform.

Have conversations on Vriendenvinder.nl while you get to know someone. Users with bad intentions often try to immediately move the conversation to text, messaging apps, email, or phone.

Report suspicious and / or offensive behavior.

You know when someone has crossed the line and when they want to, we want to know more about it.

Block and report anyone who violates our terms. Here are some examples of violations:
Requests for money or donations.
Minor Users.
Harassment, threats and offensive messages.
Improper or harmful behavior during or after a face-to-face meeting.
Fraudulent profiles.
Spam or invitation, including links to commercial websites or attempts to sell products or services.

You can report any concerns about suspicious behavior here.

Protect your account

Make sure to choose a strong password and always use caution when logging into your account from a public or shared computer. Friends Finder will never send you an email asking for username and password. If you receive an email asking for account information, you must report it immediately.

Meet in person.

Take the time to get to know the other person before meeting or talking about someone through Friends Finder. Don’t be afraid to ask questions to screen for red flags or personal deal breakers. A phone or video call can be a useful screening tool for the meeting.
Meet in public and stay in public.

Meet in a populated, public place the first few times – never at your place, at your date’s home, or at any other private location. If your date forces you to go to a private location, you end the date.
Tell friends and family about your plans.

Tell a friend or family member about your plans, including where and when you are going. Always leave your mobile phone charged and always keep it with you.

Check your mode of transport.

We want you to be in control of how you get to and from your date so you can leave whenever you want. If you are driving yourself, it is a good idea to have a backup plan such as a ride share app or a friend to pick you up.
Know your limits.

Pay specific attention to the effects of drugs or alcohol on your body; these can affect your judgment and alertness. If your date tries to pressure you into taking drugs or drinking more than you like, hold on to your limit and end the date.
Do not leave drinks or personal items unattended.

Know where your drink is coming from and where it is at all times. Only accept drinks served directly by the bartender or waiter. Many substances thrown into drinks to facilitate sexual assault are odorless, colorless, and tasteless. Also keep your phone, wallet and everything with personal information with you at all times.

If you feel uncomfortable, leave!

It’s okay to end the date early if you feel uncomfortable. In fact, it is encouraged by us. And if your instinct tells you that something isn’t right or if you feel unsafe, ask the bartender or other staff for help.

Be careful when traveling.

Check out the laws around you when you travel to a new place and research what types of legal protections, if any, are available to you based on your sexual orientation.